Great teams get better because great teammates make other teammates better. Ordinary teammates on a project together will get better at being ordinary. Their discussions will revolve around ordinary things. Great teams discuss what it takes to be great without the ordinary fears and ordinary effort. The bright side is that a group of ordinary people will accomplish more as an ordinary team than any ordinary individual could by themselves.
Confidence doesn’t require a show. The emotionally secure person can show up and respond to the day. Those that lack emotional security spend their day trying to appear as if they have the security they know they need. They need a show of confidence to convince themselves and others that they belong.
It’s important to know why people do certain things. We can’t get inside anyone’s head but patterns of behavior can help explain what and why someone is behaving a certain way. Some people walk with a quiet confidence and others must let everyone know how important they are. Which one would you want to be on a team with? The antics of those that have something to prove often disrupt the activities necessary for a team to be effective.
How much of who we are is nature and how much is nurtured? Were we born some way that makes us who we are? Yes. Our genetics, family dynamic, and social status all have an impact on who we are but…they don’t decide it. Each of us wakes up everyday with the ability to change. Our past and circumstances are not fatalistic. I may have learned some bad habits, but I chose whether or not to keep them regardless of who I chose to learn from.
Leaders that demand a high challenge often offend those who set their personal bar pretty low for a variety of excuses. When those excuses are not accepted by the culture that the leader sets, they are then replaced by complaints. We have all seen this happen. I believe that people complain about challenging leaders because they are seeking normalcy with other teammates. Is it normal to feel negatively about the direction of the team when it demands more from me? The answer is yes, but the response to that answer is what defines our quality as a teammate. Do I complain and blame the leader for my discomfort? Or do I step up to the challenge and choose to belong?